An Essential Skill: Definition of Self
Personally, I have decided that I will no longer waste time thinking about which side of the Mommy War is the right for me. I have lived with years of indecision and guilt but when I finally resolved what I stand for in my life that’s when things changed for me. Here’s how I figured it out!
The Lesson: Full Time Person
I am a full-time mother, a full-time wife and a full-time teacher. I fill these roles 24 hours a day 7 days a week and I am proud to say that I enjoy my life to the fullest! I live with time crunches, deadlines, dirty laundry, clean laundry, dinner, reading to kids, taking care of the pets plus all the rest. I have fully cultivated all of these jobs because I love my kids, husband and career.
I am comfortable holding down the full-time job of everything that I do. In my mind’s eye, I never stop thinking about my family. I work outside the home full-time and I am a stay at home full-time mom. I do this all day long. Do you ever stop to punch an emotional time card when you are work or at home? I bet the answer is no because you are a fully invested in what goes on in your home and outside of your home.
Guided Practice: Practicing Peace
I am calling a truce with myself. My internal battle about myself with myself, no longer defines who I am. I give up the guilt for the times that I’ve stayed home or time spent as a dedicated employee, while I was away from my other full-time jobs.
Every where I go, I am me. I am a full-time caring mother, spouse, worker, daughter, sister and friend. I have contributed to my full-time family emotionally, economically and educationally in every full-time job that I have ever held from wherever I was located. Do I sound like you?
Independent Practice: Enjoy Life
My time is better spent being fully engaged in my life rather than worrying over meeting standards set by someone else. It’s time to end the Mommy War because what we all want is to raise and enjoy our happy and healthy families. We make this possible when we are happy and healthy about ourselves. It’s time to simply enjoy teachable moments with those you love in your own full-time life!
Enjoy your many jobs in your busy life and live each of them to the fullest. Teach your families that the things that truly matter should not be dictated by someone who doesn’t know you or by someone who doesn’t know your circumstances. This is especially true for mom’s who have children with special needs because we live complicated days one day at a time.
The test will be when we unite as mothers, wives, sisters and daughters. Let’s put an end to an absolute definition of working mom or stay at home mom! We all work full-time and over time in life’s teachable moments we show our families where our hearts can truly be found.